If you need to get rid of stress, there are a lot of different options out there. You can go to yoga, take a nice walk, or meditate. And they’re all great options, they really are. But I have a different one. If you really want to have some fun, you can take your stress out in the bedroom, seriously. Not only is the act of sex something you can get lost in and really forget your troubles, there are so many stress-busting benefits of orgasming. It helps you sleep better, the oxytocin release means you’ll feel more relaxed, and it helps soothe pain — just to name a few. I mean, think about it: have you ever felt stressed after an orgasm? Me neither.
But we all have different styles in bed and we all have different methods for getting rid of stress. Maybe you really like to take charge, maybe you like to just take a moment and be still, or maybe you find that there’s no better stress-buster than some rough sex. It’s all about what works for you.
And between work, students loans, and post-holiday stress, you’re probably feeling pretty overwhelmed right now. So don’t deprive yourself — get lucky and get happy.
Here are seven positions for when you’re feeling stressed AF, because an orgasm is basically a miracle cure:
How To Do It: Your partner gets into a cross-legged position — make sure it’s comfortable because they’re going to be there a while. Slowly lower yourself down and wrap your legs and arms around them, and then grind away and enjoy.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: It’s basically a meditative pose. You can just take a minute to zone out and enjoy the sensation without anything to do except be.
2. Doggy Style
How To Do It: You get onto your hands and knees with your legs slightly separated, while they kneel in between you and enter you from behind. Don’t be shy — you can use you free hand for some clit play.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: Pardon my French, but sometimes you just want to get f*cked. It’s a great stress-buster and this is the best position to let them go for it.
How To Do It: Stay close to the wall, especially if you’re not used to having sex standing up. Spread your legs and life on leg slightly while bracing against the wall. They should enter you from behind, but start slowly while you’re still getting used to it.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: You really need a quickie and you don’t want to wait — sex standing up is the answer. Plus, you get G-spot stimulation and the potential for clit play.
4. Reverse Cowgirl
How To Do It: Basically, try to channel your inner-porn star. Straddle them facing their feet, and then bump and grind to your heart’s content.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: It’s all about just you going for it. If you want to lose your stress and let loose, this is the position to try. Ride ’em, cowgirl.
5. Coital Alignment Technique
How To Do It: It’s like missionary, but with a key difference. You keep your pelvis slightly below his and lift your legs up so your knees are by your elbows. It may not seem like a big change, but it’s way better for stimulation.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: This is a great position for orgasming, so if you what you need is to just get off and get on with life, this is a great one to try. It’s not complicated and you can even add a bullet vibrator to get you there faster.
6. The Plow
How To Do It: Another shift to the missionary position, this time raising your legs so far up that they rest on their shoulders. If you can hook your knees, then that’s normally the most comfortable variation, but don’t push beyond your flexibility.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: You don’t have to do anything except get into position and enjoy, but the really deep penetration is a total game-changer. It’s enough to make you forget whatever was bothering you.
7. Seated Oral
How To Do It: Easy. One of you sits on the edge of a bed or chair, while the other kneels on the floor. You can try hand play, oral, even toys.
Why It’s Stress-Busting: There’s no shame in asking your partner to help get your stress off your mind. Sit back and enjoy — or switch it up and focus on your partner’s pleasure. Either way, your stress will melt away.
Figure out what really lets you unwind in bed and just go for it — it’ll be great for your sex life and your mood.
Originally posted on Bustle