Originally posted on Bustle
A lot of people wonder why they’re single, but some people have a very definite idea. The people of Reddit decided to explain why they’re single and I have to say, things got real honest real quick. Like, seriously so. People were self-critical, they were open, and they were scathing.
But first, there’s something important to remember: there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single. In fact, being single is a great thing and plenty of people love it and want to stay single. “I think being single is an exercise that every person should go through at some point in their adult life. It is a time that gives us the distance and clarity that we need to get to know who we truly are as a person, and to firmly define what it is that we want in a future partner,” psychologist Dr. Nikki Martinez tells Bustle. And for some people, it shows them that they don’t want to be in a relationship at all— that’s a totally valid choice as well.
It’s an interesting look at how people view themselves and relationships — and a helpful reminder that, if you’re feeling single AF, then you are definitely not alone. Lots of people are on their own for a lot of different reasons. Here’s what the folks of Reddit had to say:
1. The Past
The past can mess with you. For real.
2. This Classic Problem
So many of us have been there.
3. You Decide To Give Yourself A Break
You’re totally allowed to take a step back.
4. A Whole Lot Of Reasons
Some people just don’t want to make that commitment to another person, that’s OK too.
5. Too Much Stress
Focusing on yourself is sometimes the only option.
6. Taking Time To Recharge
Taking some time for yourself is often the best decision after a failed relationship.
No more explanation needed.
8. You’re Loved… But Not In That Way
We’ve all been there at some point.
9. Admitting The Truth
At least he came right out and said it.
OK, that just sucks. Like, really sucks.
11. Just Too Messed Up
At least this person knows themselves enough to give themselves some time off. It’s OK to not be in the right headspace.
12. You Got Dumped
There’s no shame in getting dumped.
13. Emotional Walls
So many of us have trust issues… and it can be really hard to put ourselves out there.
See, if you’ve been feeling really single then it can be important to remind yourself that you aren’t alone. There are so many different reasons — sometimes it’s a choice and sometimes it’s not— but, no matter what the reason, there’s no shame in being single.