Originally posted on Bustle
The honeymoon phase can be downright magical in some relationships. For some people, the honeymoon stage is an amazing period of time when you feel like you can live in a bubble forever — and it seems like your partner can do no wrong. But, unfortunately, it ends up wearing off — and considering it can bring you to a stage of love, that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
“Sometimes people expect the honeymoon phase to last forever and that’s unrealistic,” NYC-based therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle. “People interpret getting comfortable with getting bored.” But actually, coming out of the honeymoon phase can be pretty great. You’ve reached a level of relaxation and comfort with each other that is its own kind of intimacy — even if it’s not fireworks all the time. But, how do you know when the honeymoon period is over?
Well, a bunch of Reddit answered a thread titled, “How did you know when you and your SO left the honeymoon phase?” and the results are enlightening. Because while some people seem to know exactly the moment when the honeymoon phase ended, others feel that they’ve never really left it — instead, it was more like their relationship just sort of evolved.
But among people who knew when the honeymoon was over, there was one very common theme — and it ain’t pretty. So strap in, because there is a lot of talk about bodily fluids coming your way. That’s right, what’s the most common way you know that you’ve come out of the honeymoon period? Poop. So, so much poop. Here’s what Reddit users had to say.
1. Real Life Comes At You Fast
Yeah, some real-life duties will put things into perspective real quick. My girlfriend and I are still trying to figure out a shared bank account — we’ll see if our relationship lives through it.
2. It’s Just A Time-Saver
I warned you, this is just one of many, many posts about bathrooms and bodily functions.
3. It’s A Cycle
For some people, it’s not a definite end point — just something you go in and out of.
4. Disney And Farts
I think silly singing and farts sounds like the best way to be comfortable with each other — and there’s still some romance thrown in.
5. Poop, Poop, And More Poop
*Pretends I don’t do this.*
6. An Evolution Of The Relationship
I like this idea — that you can still be excited, even though it doesn’t have the same “new” feeling because you’ve known each other. Just because it’s not new doesn’t mean it isn’t great.
7. Honesty — All The Time
This is probably a healthy end to a honeymoon period, because honesty is always important.
8. Recognizing Flaws
If you don’t realize that your partner has flaws, you’re living on another planet — nobody is perfect.
9. No More Monthaversaries
Yeah, I don’t think “monthaversaries” sound like a sustainable relationship plan.
*Keeps pretending I don’t do this.*
11. The Poop That Was Heard Across The Room
I remember a guy farting in the bathroom so loudly that I shouted “TOP SCORE” from the bedroom. That’s when you know you’re comfortable with each other.
12. And A Bigger One
Yeah, I feel like if talking about breaking a poop in half isn’t a turning point in a relationship than I don’t know what is.
13. Resentments Build
Sometimes, moving out of the honeymoon periods is really tough — and it might reveal that there are some bigger incompatibilities that you have to face.
14. There Never Was One
Not everybody has a honeymoon period — and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
15…And More Poop
I just like the phrase “poops on schedule” — I really hope that they’ve set up an actual schedule and make him adhere to it.
Isn’t that a honeymoon phase in itself?
17. Zoning Out On Each Other
Sometimes growing out of the honeymoon phase means growing apart.
There are a lot of different ways you can know that the honeymoon phase is over — but, let’s be honest, most of them involve talking about poop. Now you know.