Originally posted on Bustle
I am not an adventurous masturbator. I should be, because I am always reading and writing about the best masturbation techniques, sex toys and ways to masturbate — but I rarely branch out myself. I’m definitely a regular masturbator and a firm believer in all of the benefits it brings. I think it’s great for your body, your mind, your sexual exploration — and it can do you good even if you’re in a relationship.
“There are an endless number of reasons to masturbate. Learning how to make yourself orgasm is the most empowering experience you will ever have,” Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and founder of Finishing School, tells Bustle. “You’ll also learn how to teach a partner how to bring you pleasure.”
But, if you’re like me and tend just go on autopilot when you masturbate rather than really taking the time to play and experiment, it’s time to mix things up. Instead of going for your same old routine, just a few tweaks and new techniques can totally change your masturbation experience — and maybe even your orgasm.
If you’re stuck in a masturbation rut and in need of a change, try some of these techniques to bring your alone time to another level.
1. Try A Totally Different Toy
If you’ve never tried using one before, then vibrators can totally change your masturbation game. “Whether you want to stimulate those often neglected erogenous zones, or just want to take your masturbation to the next level, I highly recommend adding a toy into the mix,” Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, tells Bustle. But if you have a favorite toy, it’s easy to go back to it again and again and again. Sure, it does the job, but you’re also used to it. Try something new — and enjoy the new sensations.
2. Use Edging For A Stronger Orgasm
If you’ve ever teased your partner during sex by getting them close to orgasm and backing off, edging is basically doing the same thing — but for yourself. “Edging is when you achieve a longer, more intense orgasm by getting close to orgasm, then preventing it before it happens,” Stacy Rybchin, founder and CEO of My Secret Soiree, a pleasure-based sexual health and wellness education company, tells Bustle. “You could pause, go to zero and then rebuild or you could distract yourself away from the orgasm, shifting the focus… before you start again.”
3. Try To Find Your G-Spot
If you don’t know how to find your G-spot, here’s the deal. “The G-spot islocated two inches inside the vagina, on the topside of the vaginal wall, and has a spongy texture,” Sex Therapist and Sexologist, Stefani Threadgill, tells Bustle. “To find the G-spot, insert two fingers, palm-up, with a ‘come-here’ motion, and press up against the front wall of the vagina. The G-spot responds to direct pressure.” Try stimulating your G-spot and your clit at the same time for some blended pleasure.
4. Play With Pressure
Don’t underestimate the power of some pressure and some old-fashioned grinding. “Women use fingers, pillows, blankets, vibrators, or a favorite object,” Dr. Sharon Thompson, MD, MPH, FACOG tells Bustle. Instead of going right for clitoris, try grinding in with some pressure first, then move onto direct stimulation. If you like penetration, use the heel of your hand to put pressure around your clit while your fingers get busy.
5. Try Finding New Fantasies
Masturbation isn’t all about your body — try engaging your mind next time. “Get your brain on board with masturbation and your body will thank you,” Morse says. “Remember that arousal starts in your head and works its way down. If your mind is good and turned on, it won’t be long until the rest of your body follows suit. To get that big sexy brain on board, start exploring your fantasies and finding new mental triggers that can fuel your self-love sessions.” Read some erotica, fantasize, just try anything that gets your mind involved.
6. Hint At It
If grinding pressure is too much for you, try hinting instead. “Hinting is building anticipation and intensifying pleasure by moving over a sensitive spot and only occasionally touching it,” Rybchin says. “For a woman, you could hint over the entire vulva, the clitoris or just the opening.” Eventually, let yourself go in for more.
7. Change Your Position
It’s so easy to default to the same masturbation position. But if you change things up, you may have a whole difference experience. “Don’t be afraid to move around or switch up your go-to position,” Morse says. “If you’re usually flat on your back when masturbating, try doing it standing up, turning onto your stomach, or spreading your legs farther apart then closer together. Every new position allows you to reach orgasm in a different way, and may provide you with new sensations to choose from.”
It’s really easy to get into a masturbation routine — you know what works for you and you just go for it. But you may be depriving yourself of some more intense sensations. So try a new a technique and see what happens — you might even surprise yourself.