In Defense Of Experimenting With Your Bisexuality

If you’ve ever thought about experimenting with another woman, then there’s every reason to try it. First of all— it’s so normal. So normal. Women love other women. They love lesbian porn (it’s the most common type of porn for women to watch) and some studies have even suggested that all women are either bisexual or lesbian. Even if they’re not admitting to it, a lot of women have gone there (or wish they had). There is no need to feel self-conscious about any sapphic leanings.

But you may that feel that dabbling in some lesbian porn watching is different to actually trying it in the flesh. But it doesn’t have to be. If you’re curious, then there’s every reason to go for it. Of course you want to be a decent person and you don’t want to ‘use’ someone, but as long as everyone knows what’s what then you’re totally fine. I’ve hooked up with girls who probably have never hooked up with another woman in their life— and I’m OK with that. I don’t take it as a sign that I was so hideously disgusting I put them off (at least, I hope I didn’t), I take it just as them working things through and experimenting. And I genuinely don’t see anything wrong with that— you never know until you try.

Remember That We’re All Experimenting

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It’s also important to remember that we are all experimenting, all the time. We’re experimenting with new personalities and people to see if it’s going to be the right fit. It’s all sort of this bizarre experimental auditioning process. You go out with or hookup with lots of people you may never have any interest in seeing again— is that so different than hooking up with a woman for the first time?

You know how not to be a sh*tty person, so just don’t be a sh*tty person about it. As long as you both know that you’re just dipping your toe in the water, then you have nothing to worry about.

You Never Know Until You Try

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Obviously, I’m biased. I’m a bisexual who never would have met my amazing girlfriend if I hadn’t decided to experimenting with hooking up with women and then tried dating women. I wanted to see if it I would like it— and I really did. But if I hadn’t, that’s OK too. You aren’t signing up for a lifetime of lesbianism, you’re just seeing how far your heteroflexiblity and curiosity goes. But, I mean, boobs are really awesome. So I have a feeling it will go pretty far if you’re willing to try. But if it doesn’t, it’s nothing to worry about. At least you’ll know that you’ve given it a shot and you’ll have a better sense of your own sexuality. It’s always good knowing what works and doesn’t work for you.

It’s great to see how many people are embracing their instincts and curiosities and experimenting. Just remember to be a decent person about it and make sure nobody gets hurt unnecessarily— then there’s so much you gain. Finding out you like something and acting on a curiosity doens’t take away from your existing sexuality, it just adds to it. So go ahead and give it a try.