The Beginner’s Guide To Porn

If you haven’t watched porn before, it’s totally normal to be nervous about watching porn for the first time. Maybe you’ve never seen it, maybe you stumbled across something when you were younger and did not like it, or maybe you just spent your puberty with some aggressively erotic Harry Potter fanfiction (yup, that was me)— but a lot of people don’t start watching porn until later in life. That’s absolutely fine. And you may find that you really enjoy it. In fat, 25 percent of Pornhub viewers are women, so there are millions of ladies out there who are loving it.

But porn can be totally intimidating when you first start watching it. If you log onto one of the big tube sites, it’s like a smorgasbord of crazy sexual deviancy—  and it’s over-effing-whelming when you first see it all. Don’t worry. You don’t have to use those sites and, if you do like, them you can learn how to navigate them. The important thing is that you find something that works for you. It may be watching an old fantasy of yours being played out… or maybe you’ll discover you’re into something completely unexpected.

So how do you go about finding out? Here’s what you need to know when getting into porn for the first time.

The Tube Sites Have Everything— But, Like, Really Everything

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Like I said, the big sites have everything. There are dozens of little icons and previews and it all feels very in your face. Some of the little clips you may think are really sexy, but some of them you probably will find super weird. That’s totally normal. We all have our turn ons, but there are so many different ones out there that you’re bound to be turned off by some of them. There are about 10,000 porn categories so don’t fret if some of it looks strange to you, because what you’re into may seem strange to someone else— and that’s totally OK.

There’s Lots Of Feminist Porn Available

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OK, so one of the things that people don’t like about the big porn sites is all of the ads that pop up— it’s often about rough sex with young women and some people are not at all into that. Interestingly, women are as into rough porn as men are, so if that’s you’re thing you’re not alone. But if you’re not into it and find all the pop up and ads a bit much, there are plenty of feminist porn sites available. Make Love Not Porn and Crash Pad are particularly great.

Porn Can Take On A Lot Of Different Forms, So Work Out What’s Right For You

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And if standard porn just isn’t for you, that’s OK too. There are a lot of different variations that may be up your street. There’s erotica, there are porn GIFs on Tumblr, and there are even compilations of the dirties, sexiest, scenes from movies if you search on Youtube (one of my friends swears by them). So don’t think you have to fit a certain mold.

There is so much porn on the internet, that it’s easy to feel a little freaked out. But as long as everything is happy, healthy, and consensual, then you should just be going with whatever turns you on. That may be the dirtiest lines from Renaissance play or a hardcore threesome on Pornhub. An either way, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.